Felin's parents and Evelyn/Jimmy endured the causeway jam to visit us during the H.R Puasa weekend. Felin is always happy whenever her family is here. She will have plenty of pregnancy experiences to share and to talk about old times. We met at Sentosa Resort World to have lunch with them where we simply laze around the Malaysian Foodcourt. MIL gave me and Felin a buffet dinner voucher at The Starz (Hard Rock) where Felin can only admire my Sashimi and Clams during dinner. After dinner, we just chat outside the Casino like till 11+pm. Wow!!! Seems so much to talk and Felin don't really looks tired.
The following morning, we suddenly discussed about how and who are going to take care of the kids. For the first month, the strategy will be Felin just take care of feeding the babies and have plenty of rest to focus on having sufficient milk flow. Mum and MIL will be in charge of putting babies to sleep, making them burp, giving them shower and cooking, etc.... We are also seriously considering to get a domestic worker to assist. When it comes to night, Mum will be resting at her own house and MIL should be still there to assist during the night. I think its either the domestic worker or me have to help out.
The above strategy sounds easy but I think will not be easy to implement. My house is so small, can we accommodate so many people? Will there be conflict between Mum and MIL? Does domestic workers help in the middle of the night? What if we get D.W who does not know how to take care of children? What happen after MIL goes back Malaysia after the 1st month confinement? Are we able to take care of 2 babies from the 2nd month onwards?
It seems that we are not getting confinement lady and MIL and mum will work together to help out. I was considering whether to get a month supply of the Ting Kat to ensure enough food for 3-4 people or take this chance for Mum to teach our domestic worker to cook. We also considered on infant care after 4 months but we will take this only as a last resort measure when Mum can't handle and no domestic worker is found to be suitable to help.
I somehow felt that I am still so far from doing things that I been wanting to do such as learning public speaking for seminars, doing my ChFC exam, ensuring my fitness with more runs and gym sessions, to learn from a fitness instructor before my Gym membership ends in October, etc...
It seems to me that once the babies come, I may not have time for all these things and life. Finances can be another concern, additional expenses such as domestic worker, car expenses after conversion to normal plate, insurances, living expenses such as Diapers, milk, medical, my tax, my mortgage payment, parents support, tithes, etc... This is on top of a likely case where Felin will stop working for 1-2 years. MONEY NOT ENOUGH!!! Money not enough, yet I'm concerned if I will be in good physical shape to continue remain focused on my work in office due to lack of sleep.
I think these concerns will get more pressing as the babies approaches their arrival date. I'm definitely not ready for them to come yet though Felin hope they comes asap. Too many things undone and unsure at this moment. Week 15 is coming and omg I really don't know whether I want time to go fast or slow now... haha...
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