After the banking stuff was completed, we proceeded to meet Pooi Kuan and her husband Yi Han at Bugis Junction for lunch. PK is now in her 38th week, ready to deliver her baby boy within the next 2 weeks. Felin and PK talked so many things which they have in common during lunch as Yi Han and me just listened. From the meeting, I can also see how much Yi Han cared for PK. How he planned PK's nutrients intake via traditional and western way. He can also go back home early to accompany PK during her pregnancy days, etc... This makes me feel that I'm actually doing nothing for Felin. I don't really know how to cook and let her eat more nutritious meals, I didn't drive her to work or at least accompany her every morning on the MRT, etc etc... After lunch, we went Orchard Road to buy maternity clothes and back to Bugis Junction for a $25 eye checkup. After that went Bedok to buy air purifier and had dinner with mum...
What a packed and awesome day until the question popped out "Can I go Lucerne and Barcelona in October?" The discussion wasn't pleasant and we ended up stopped talking to each other for quite a while. Felin's stand was simple. She is pregnant and she feels that she needs me to be by her side. A day without me is a torture and why will I still want to go? To leave her alone at home is a "No No"! To her, I'm only there to go play and have fun. She feels that going overseas is a family thing and how could I enjoy when I'm not going with her. Her father definitely not going to be like me of putting pleasure ahead of family.
I can't hide my disappointment because they are free trips that I'd aimed and achieved over the year. How I wish that she would have allowed me to go and taste the fruit that I'd fought for. Its not that I do not value her pregnancy, I just believe we should still have our own "Me" time. Is it a must that I cannot be out of her side the entire 40 weeks? I just like to request for a week to go for this trip with my colleagues and friends. Its really not a matter of "I value this trip more than you". After much arguments, she unhappily told me to go for one of the 2 trips but this matter had already created so much unhappiness that I decided to forgo the entire trip altogether.
I think none of us is right or wrong. Its simply a difference in perspective. I seriously never perceive things to be as serious as she thought. I thought life need not be so rigid even with pregnancy and we need to stop living our "life" for the entire 40 weeks. I'll still do my best to care for you for 39 weeks but please let me go for only a week and its not a month?
You may say that I'm childish to feel disappointed. But I know she feels equally disappointed that I did not put her in the "Priority" position during the discussion.
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