I rather Blur Blur and know nothing

"I rather Blur Blur and Know Nothing."

This was the comment I got from Felin after I asked her whether she wants to go for the Oscar scan. During the discussion, I shared with her about my friend's and client's experiences as well as what I read over the night about Oscar scan. She scolded me for telling her all these because she never thought on any possible consequences of seeing bad result and be asked to do a lot more test which ended up we scaring ourselves and money wasted. Her mind is simple, if doctor tell us to do, just do it!

I always thought that it is the woman who will go research, read motherhood forums, do all the reading about pregnancy, etc... but for her, she prefer to be blur blur and know less. Her reasoning is not wrong too. She feels that all these forum only contain negative information and make her worry. All these worries will only affect her pregnancy. Why waste time go see all these?

Well. I think its simply her character. I suddenly remembered the past on how I researched for all the wedding venues/packages in the middle of the night and listened to all sort of march-in music. I remembered how I researched for renovation ideas, getting myself involved in renotalk forums and kept drawing on the floor plan every night. I recalled how I planned for most of the holidays and constantly on look out for all the cheap air tickets. Just to name a few...
She was often the one listening to my presentations and asked me the questions before I went on research again. (Opps... She will surely defend her position if she is to see this post like half a year later...) To be fair, of course she does help me at times for certain issues and she has better judgement in many things than me. All these makes us a good team, isn't it?

I think I'm just a logical person who believes in probability and always wanting to be ready if the negative happens. I like to read, research and discuss in forums. See, I even journaling down all my experiences now.

I need to learn that as a husband, I have to give her more confidence than add anxieties. I should select to share more of the good things than those bad experiences that I read. Its good enough just for me to know and I will only highlight my additional knowledge as and when necessary. She need to see a more fairy-tale like pregnancy environment to make sure the babies arrive safe and sound. (That's the most important!!! Full stop...)