The Babies Grandfathers

Its another weekend in Malaysia again. Its always so relaxing to be there where we will just enjoy the food and companionship as a family. Whenever I went back to Malaysia, my Father In Law will give me a glimpse on the type of satisfaction a father can achieved through a combination of selflessness and intelligence. He will always chauffeur us around to get our errands done, he will cook really great food for the whole family, he will give advice whenever we need it and he is certainly someone we can depend upon when we encounter any problem. He does all these without complain despite the hardship of bringing up 4 children and each with them with their own character. I can see that his children really give him tip-top love and respect. Such love and respect are accumulated through all these years and not just because he is their father.

As for my Father, he is someone who expresses himself lesser through words. I don't remember hearing him say how he loves or dotes us but through his actions, we know he loves the family. Whenever there are anything wrong in my house like a toilet bowl choking, light point not working or fixing a problematic TV, he will be there to save me. He dotes on my nieces just like his own daughter. He will chauffeur her from school, tuitions, enrichment classes, etc... He also dotes on Felin through small gestures like buying durians for Felin regularly, knowing that she loves it. He is a man of few words but deep inside our heart, he is someone that we respect. However, as we don't come from affluent family, Dad was just busy with work that he probably spend little time with us during childhood years.

When I looked at my own Father and Father in Law, there are many things I will want to learn from them in order that I can be a better Father...
1) I must learn to express my love for my children, by actions and by words to such that they do not feel awkward if I am to hug them or to kiss them, despite them being boys...
2) I must set good example for both of them to be righteous with God and to be their best friend so that they can look for me when they encountered problems in future.
3) I must be selfless like my Fathers and not complain whenever they ask me to help them or if my presence is needed.
4) I must stay positive despite the headwinds in my career so that I can innovate, stay ahead and give them the best I can in term of time and finances, at least till their independence...

I want my 2 boys to be closer to me as compared to how I am to my Dad. I want my 2 boys to be close to each other as compared to how close I am to my brother. I want them to know that they are brothers and they have to respect each other regardless how different they are in future. I want them to know that we are a family unit. No matter what happen, we will always stay close as a family. This family include our extended family which is their grandparents and of course not forgetting our Heavenly Father as well.